Yes! A Compliment can go Ary!

Sometimes I even pause before stating what I think is a compliment to someone. If you know me, you know sometimes what I say comes out wrong…..however, I have never screwed up a compliment as bad as what was said to me yesterday. Thinking before you speak is what helps some people. But there are people who are just rude even when trying to be nice. I try to stay away from “those” people. Note to self- that’s hard to do when it’s your own family!

“Joy, <pinching my stomach> , you look nice”.

“Thanks”

“so, it’s been 30 right?”

“30 what? I am 30 years old”

“Pounds silly”

” ummm, 70 actually but thanks”

” You were that big? Wow, that’s big”

“ummm, I guess”

” You were fat I guess…….thank goodness you solved that”

” yep, yes indeed”

So, ummm, I am still pretty shocked about the conversation still. I feel like my response was very vague. There were so many responses I could’ve said, but I guess the cat got my tongue yesterday. When you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all. I owe that cat a lot.

i mean, come on really? Thank you kindly for reminding me how “big” I was.  I didn’t know that. I have been under the assumption that I was a swimsuit model. You never saw my trifold in Sports Illustrated?  All seriousness aside, thank you for reminding me that I don’t give a flying “f-word” what people think about me. I was happy then and am happy now. It’s not all about appearances, but if it was I know who to talk too.

 

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