This was not the post that was scheduled for today. I had this other funny HA-HA post that was light and  full of humor all ready to go.  However, considering the circumstances that arose today with Landon at school, I found it necessary to vent my frustrations. Well, frustrations is putting it nicely. I am extremely pissed, angry, saddened, disheartened and a boat load of other emotions.

A week ago, a boy in Landon’s class had said some rude things about his hair while waiting for school to begin and Landon told him what he always does- ” Boys can have long hair too”. I kinda hoped this was a one time thing and it would be nipped in the butt, but boy was I wrong. This said child is a Fucking Bully. Yes, You heard me- a bully at 5 years old. Bullies can come in any form, any age and anywhere at all. A Bully is defined as:  A person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.

 

Today started off like any other day. We got to school, parked and went to the door to wait for the teachers to come and get us. The kids always run around, play tag, talk and do other innocent things kids like to do. Within seconds of Landon going over to the kids, this boy told Landon to get away from him because he doesn’t like his girl hair. Landon, again told him that its not girl hair and that everyone is made perfect the way they are.  (Insert-Proud Mommy Moment #1) Then the kid said, ” I didn’t invite you to my party because you have girl hair and no-one likes you”. He continues to say, “I would have punched you if you came”.

My 4 year old, looks him straight in the eyes and says, ” That is ignorant and rude”. He immediately walks over to me and proudly says that he told him that he was ignorant and that he wants to ignore him from now on because he doesn’t like his attitude. (Insert-Proud Mommy Moment #2 & #3). The  Bell rings and the teacher comes. I thought of saying something then, but was so furious and didn’t want to discuss it in front of the kids. So I went for a 3 mile run instead. All I could think of was Landon. How did he feel? Was this going on inside the classroom? For how long? I knew I needed to find out before I made my next step. So this takes us to the afternoon dismissal.

I put Landon in the car and ask him how his day went. He tells me that this same kid was making fun of him at playtime and snack-time. I asked him if this has happened before. He told me that he makes fun of him almost every day. Then it came. Tears started pouring down my face after he told me a story about one time this kid made fun of him. This is what my 4 year old told me- “Mommy, you would have been so proud of me. He was making fun of me and calling me a girl and saying, NA-NA-NA-NANA to me and I was so mad and sad but I didn’t hit him, bite him, push him or scream. I just walked my legs as fast as I could to the quiet corner and sat down and ignored him”.(Insert- Proud Mommy Moment #4)

Why must my 4 year old have to do this? It hurt me so bad that he is experiencing bullying at such a young age. I hate it. But, deep down I know that he will be better off because of it.  He is learning a big life lesson here. He is choosing to ignore this behavior. He is such a caring and loving person. He accepts everyone- a rare attribute that I wish more people had. We don’t use words like hate, stupid, dumb, retarded, ugly and more in this house. he knows 9 times out of 10 when those words are spoken it is in a negative light.

Some may think I am teaching him to be “too” nice. See, I give a shit what “those people” may think. No-one has ever been hurt by niceness. I would rather have a son who kills with kindness than kills with words.  We have a motto in this house-” Niceness is Priceless” and I am sticking with it. My 4 year old is the most compassionate person I know. He constantly tells me that everyone  is made perfect the way they are and that there are no mistakes. God, I hope he never loses that mentality. I will try my damnedest to make sure that never happens.

End of my rant- its been a long day……Will update with what we decide to do- because you can bet your ass this is not getting pushed aside anymore.

– A seriously upset Momma Bear